The Right Question is the most powerful sentence in the world.
Once you learn what it is and how to use it, you will be unstoppable.
I want you to live your dreams. And you will.
My name is James de Garmo, and I want you to live your dreams. I don’t care how old you are or what you’ve done with your life up to now, or how far you think you’ve fallen from where you were or where you wanted to be. I want you to succeed at life.
If we all did that, we’d act from positions of power, understanding, generosity, acceptance, gratitude and effectiveness.
Whatever it means to you, you want to succeed at something. Maybe it’s making a lot of money. It might mean overcoming a personal hardship. Perhaps you want success with the opposite sex, a fulfilling relationship. Any of these things seem like moving targets, elusive, and a matter of luck more than anything.
Success is the result of doing the right things at the right time. Many other factors play a part – everything from knowing the right people to just plain and simple good luck – but absolutely nothing happens without some action. Even winning a lottery means you have to buy a ticket. At some point, you have to do something.
Naturally, this leaves most people wondering what to do. What is it that successful people are doing that unsuccessful people aren’t doing, and where can you learn this, anyway?
Read on to find out how I came up with the most powerful sentence in the world, the one that every person who has ever succeeded has asked. You’ve asked it too, but it’s possible that you didn’t really understand its power or thought it wasn’t important. Believe me, it is. In fact, it’s impossible to succeed without doing this one crucial thing.
Unless you already knew the Question, you never stopped to ask it. But if you want consistent results in your life that are measurable, positive, and guide you towards the life of your dreams – in every sense of whatever that means to you – then you need to do so.
You need to ask it on purpose. And when you do, you’ll realize why some things succeeded and others didn’t. You’ll immediately realize that the good life isn’t just for other people. You will understand that you can have it all, and you’ll begin living it.
I’m not talking about ’embracing your inner halo’ or some other New Age excuse for accepting an unfulfilling existence. It is important to want the life you already have, because that’s where you start from, but make no mistake – the life you really want to live is waiting for you.
Asking the Question is a compassionate way to examine your current way of living and understand how it drifted away from what you really wanted, but its purpose is to get you back on track and make you realize that the life you’ve always wanted is yours with so little effort that you’ll wonder why nobody told you this before.
“Is this self-help?” I hear you asking.
Please, no. No more self help, okay? I’ve had all I can handle.
I studied self help for over 20 years before I realized it had done absolutely nothing for my bank account whatsoever. The thing I wanted most was financial independence, and it was the thing that had eluded me the most. You’d think two decades of gaining intimate knowledge of the self help field would have produced some result – something, anything – but I was just as broke as I was as a teenager.
Interestingly enough, this is how self help backfired on itself and led to the Question. When I say I followed all the instructions in those books, I mean it. I wrote down my goals in the positive, I meditated, I filled a binder with pictures the places I was going to go and the cars I was going to drive, everything. This includes the advice about having conversations with some very wealthy people about how they did it. And those conversations led me to understand the one thing – really, the only thing – that wealthy people had in common.
Sure, most of them worked lots. But some didn’t. Some were happy, some weren’t. Most of them said they’d build another fortune easily if the one they had was suddenly lost. But not all. Some drove beautiful cars, others walked. Some found that their business took them around the world, others barely left their home town (these ones were tough to find, and though their fortunes were modest, they were rock solid).
However, every single one of them told me the same thing – that when it came to overcoming challenges and finding a way to succeed, when it came down to the business of getting it all, keeping it all and enjoying it all, no matter how humble their beginnings, they all asked themselves the same question.
They didn’t all word it the way I’ve done. Some took an entire conversation to explain it, others who were kind enough to give me five minutes outside their hotel or convention center said it much more succinctly. But they all, every one of them, said the same thing in one way or another. And it was something I’d never, ever read in any self help or success book before. Not explained in such simple terms, anyway, and certainly not as such an easy-to-understand concept. I read one book that came close, but it didn’t quite hit the mark.
…when they actually told me how they did it, none of them thanked self help books for their wealth. Only the Question in one shape or form was what made the difference.
Ironic, isn’t it? Self help and success books told me to see how wealthy people became wealthy, yet when they actually told me how they did it, none of them thanked self help books for their wealth. Only the Question in one shape or form was what made the difference.
I followed every single suggestion and step to the letter. I wasted oceans of time trying to figure out why my life wasn’t working, before I realized that “why” is irrelevant. It took me a long time to realize that the purpose of mainstream self help, from what I could see anyway, was simply to make me feel better about my problems. I’m not talking about academic studies of self-esteem or personal interaction by writers such as Nathaniel Branden and Eric Berne, though I read those as well (and recommend them). I mean the standard diet of crap like The Secret or Tony Robbins or anyone else who panders to the frustrated masses. There’s only so much rah-rah fistpumping you can do before the rush wears off and you realize you’re worse off than you were the day before, because you’re not richer but you are older.
Self help isn’t just about getting rich. Love and weight loss are the other two huge subjects in which self help books insist that they can pave the way for you. And they’re just as useless in those fields.
The reason is simple: They don’t answer the right question.
When it comes to your success, there’s only one thing that’s going to light a fire under you and ensure that you stay on track until your dream comes true. And to get that answer, you have to ask the right question.
Have you heard these tired old saws:
- “Figure out why!”
- “You have to want it!”
- “Set your vision!”
- “Take massive action!”
- “Follow your passion!”
- “Set great goals!”
In the long term, they’re useless. They’ll fire you up for a while but it is very rare that any of these methods provide long term results you can rely on.
To fully understand why, think about the fact that success and failure are two sides of the same coin.
In twenty-five years of reading self help and success books, I ran into countless others who were bona fide self-help and success lit junkies. They made me look like a hobbyist, even with my huge collection of books, tapes, videos, you name it. These people knew a lot more than I did about the genre, but they were just as broke and confused as I was. Obviously there was either something missing or something wrong with what we were being told.
I found out what was wrong, and I discovered what was missing. And now I want to share it with you.
I’ve made it my mission to help you understand why everything you’ve wanted seems just as far away as the day you first wanted it. Until now.
I’m going to share a secret with you that will put you back in touch with the life you’ve only thought could happen if you won the lottery or met a magic genie. Back in the driver’s seat of your dreams, with the people you love, and above all, I’ll put you in touch with yourself.
You’re going to get your life aligned with who you really are. You’re going to see every single area of your life blossom and grow in ways you never even imagined.
Along the way, you’re going to gain a permanent and lasting understanding of how to beat your problems. You’ll conquer the things that have been holding you back. You’ll finally understand why you procrastinate, divert your attention away from what really matters, eat when you’re upset or bored, are generally unsatisfied, and are consistently broke no matter how much money you make. And you’re going to change all that. Completely.
Download The Right Question right now and discover how to achieve success, no matter how far away it seems.